Toddlers are notoriously picky eaters. They may only eat a few foods, then abruptly refuse them. Toddlers also have rapidly changing appetites. Although toddlers grow steadily throughout their second year, their growth rates are less dramatic than during the first year, which often is reflected in how much they eat. Children this age may eat robustly one day and very little the next, but they usually eat the right amount to meet their caloric needs.
Toddlers are just beginning to understand that they can make their own decisions. Their need for independence and control often interferes with mealtime and eating.
There are two basic "rules" for feeding your child:
- You decide what, when, and where to feed your child.
- Your child decides how much and whether to eat.
Try these steps to help make sure your child's nutrition needs are met.
- Find at least one food from each food group that your child likes.
Make sure it is readily available most of the time. Children tend to accept new foods gradually, and you may have to introduce a food many times before your child actually tries it.
- Model good nutrition for your children.
Do not regularly keep less nutritious foods (for example, those that have large amounts of fats or sugar) in the house. If you eat these foods but try to withhold them from your toddler, the child will learn that these foods are highly desirable. The child may sneak these foods, beg for them, or simply view them as wonderful.
- Limit the amount of fruit juice you give your child.
Do not give your child more than 4 oz. of fruit juice per day. Juice does not have the valuable fiber that whole fruit has.
- Plan ahead and be aware of common issues.
A little planning and awareness can help you prevent mealtime battles.
- Provide a variety of nutritious foods for children, at reasonably timed meals and at the dinner table.
- Allow your child to select which foods to eat from among those you have provided. Let your child decide when to finish eating. Stay out of these decisions.
- Don't use food as a reward.
- Consider family meals to be pleasant social events that bring the family together, not functional events at which a child feels obligated to eat.
- Let hunger, not rules or pleading or bargaining, determine what and how much your child eats (within the boundaries of what you make available).
Current as of: September 20, 2021
Author: Healthwise Staff
John Pope MD - Pediatrics
Kathleen Romito MD - Family Medicine
Rhonda O'Brien MS, RD, CDE - Certified Diabetes Educator