Taking Care of Yourself When Your Baby Is Fussy

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Caring for a fussy baby can be stressful. Taking good care of yourself can help you cope with some of the challenges. Here are some ways to care for yourself.

  • Understand your feelings.

    It's common to feel scared, upset, or frustrated if your baby is fussy. You may also be tired if you're not getting the sleep you need. At times, you may feel overwhelmed. Try to be patient and kind with your baby and yourself.

  • Take a few deep breaths.

    Pause and take a few deep breaths. You can count to 10 when you feel frustrated with your baby's crying. It is okay to place your baby on their back in their crib and walk away. You can check on them every 5 to 10 minutes.

  • Try to make time for yourself.

    If possible, schedule some time away from your baby. Ask a trusted adult to watch your baby so you can do something you enjoy, even if only for a short time. This might be something like taking a walk, reading, visiting a friend, or taking a warm bath.

  • Talk to others.

    If you have a partner, talk to them about your feelings and concerns. Talking to other caregivers and parents can be helpful. Look for parenting groups in your area or online. Call your doctor's office for information about parenting classes.

  • Ask for help.

    Babies usually cry more during the late afternoon or early evening. Maybe you could ask a relative, friend, or neighbor to come over a few times a week. Having support can help you care for yourself.

    If you're afraid that you might hurt your baby, even without meaning to, get help right away. Call a friend or neighbor to come over. If no one is available and you are feeling out of control, call 911.


Current as of: October 24, 2023

Author: Healthwise Staff
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