Learning About How to Discipline Your Toddler

What are some tips?

Discipline may seem like a big word for a small child. But loving discipline teaches your toddler good behavior.

Here are a few ideas you might try.

• Make a plan.

  Family, other caregivers, and teachers may have different ideas on how and when to discipline a toddler. A plan helps everyone know what to do and what to say if your child has an issue or a behavior problem. Share your plan for discipline with everyone involved in your child's care.

• Try parenting classes.

  "Effective parenting" classes are offered in most areas. You'll learn how to encourage your child's sense of responsibility, nurture self-esteem, and strengthen your parent-child relationship. Ask your doctor or call area schools for more information.

• Set limits, and be consistent and calm.

  Setting limits helps your child have a sense of security. Make sure you're consistent as you set rules. This means that no matter how tired you are, the rules still apply. Example: Your family has decided that candy is off-limits. You're tired after a long day. You make a quick stop at the store. Your child starts screaming for candy. But you stay calm and firm even in the heat of the moment.

• Avoid spanking.

  Physical punishment such as spanking isn't a useful way to manage behavior. It teaches a child that physical force is the way to resolve conflict. It can embarrass your child. And it can make your child resent and not trust you.

• Use consequences.
  • Logical consequences. This means that the discipline fits the action. If your child writes on the wall with crayons, have the child help you wash it. Take away the crayons for a short time.
  • Natural consequences. These are results that happen naturally and are safe for your child. For example, if your child throws ice cream on the floor, they don't get to eat the ice cream.
• Redirect your child's behavior.

  Distract your child when they misbehave. If your child has trouble sharing a toy, show them another toy.

• Build your child's self-esteem.

  It's important to reassure your child that it's the behavior you don't like, not them. Catch your child being good, and praise that behavior. Use your body language, such as looking sad, to let your child know that you don't like a certain behavior.