Decreased Female Libido: Care Instructions

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A decreased libido means you have less desire to have sex. It may be hard for you to get sexually excited or have an orgasm. This is a common problem.

Many things can cause this problem. Often, there's more than one cause.

In some cases, your sex life may be affected by normal changes in your body. These include having a baby and going through menopause.

This problem can also be caused by a medicine you take. Or your vagina could be dry. Or you might have a vaginal infection. And sometimes, there may be issues between you and your partner that affect your sex drive.

Your doctor may do tests to see if you have a vaginal infection. The doctor may ask you about your sex life. It's important to trust your doctor. Try to be honest about your feelings toward sex. Your sex partner may want to be involved with your treatment.

Many people can have a healthy sex drive again after the problem is found.

Medicines for depression can affect your sex drive. If you are taking any, ask your doctor about changing them.

Follow-up care is a key part of your treatment and safety. Be sure to make and go to all appointments, and call your doctor if you are having problems. It's also a good idea to know your test results and keep a list of the medicines you take.

How can you care for yourself at home?

  • Tell your doctor about all the medicines you take. This includes vitamins, supplements, and herbal remedies.
  • Use vaginal lubricant during sex. Examples are Astroglide and K-Y Jelly.
  • Increase the time you and your partner spend touching each other before sex. This is called foreplay.
  • Before sex, take a warm bath. This can relax you and reduce stress or anxiety.
  • Try types of sexual activity other than intercourse.
  • Be honest with your sex partner about what you enjoy during sex.

When should you call for help?

Watch closely for changes in your health, and be sure to contact your doctor if you have any problems.

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