Domestic abuse


Your right to safety

If someone is hurting you or your children, making you feel afraid, putting you down, making threats, or pushing or hitting you, it is not alright and it is not your fault.

Abuse occurs when someone uses their body, words, or objects to hurt you. An abuser is usually trying to control another person through harmful words or actions.

If you are having problems with someone who threatens you or hurts you, tell your doctor or other medical professional. You and your baby can get free and confidential help.

  • Remember: It's not your fault, no matter what anyone tells you. Nobody deserves to be abused.
  • You need to take care of yourself because if you are hurt, your children are hurt, too.

If you need help, call
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) (www.thehotline.orgKaiser Permanente is not responsible for the content or policies of external Internet sites, or mobile apps.)

You are not alone. There is help available. In an emergency, call the police, your domestic violence hotline, or a woman's shelter in your community.

Learn more about domestic abuse.

For pregnant women

If someone has hurt you before, it may happen again while you are pregnant or after the baby is born. Sometimes abuse starts when you become pregnant. Bringing a new baby into your home may bring added stress to you and your partner.

Remember that stress is never an excuse for someone to hurt you or your baby.

Create a safety net

  • Talk to someone you trust about what is going on.
  • Call the police in an emergency.
  • Keep a set of car keys and money stashed where you can find them quickly.
  • Keep important papers (birth certificates, photo ID, bank book) in a safe place.
  • If you need to talk, or if you need help, call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), toll-free, 24 hours a day. The National Domestic Violence Hotline has counselors who speak English, Spanish and other languages. They can give you information about local resources.

Reviewed by: Jeff Convissar, MD, November 2015
Additional Kaiser Permanente reviewers

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