Suicidal Thoughts in a Family Member: Care Instructions

Overview

People who consider suicide often feel hopeless, helpless, and worthless. They may think that suicide will solve their problems and end their pain. They may not really want to die, but they may feel that there's no other choice.

These thoughts and feelings may come from having a mental health problem, such as depression. These problems can be treated. With treatment, your family member can feel better.

Take any talk of suicide or wanting to die or disappear seriously, even if it's said in a joking manner. Don't be afraid to talk openly with your family member about their feelings. It may not be easy to talk about suicide, but it can help the person feel supported and connected. Support and connection can help protect people from suicide.

How can you care for your family member at home?

If your family member talks about suicide, self-harm, or feeling hopeless, get help right away.

Where to get help 24 hours a day, 7 days a week

If you or someone you know talks about suicide, self-harm, a mental health crisis, a substance use crisis, or any other kind of emotional distress, get help right away. You can:

• Call the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988.
• Call 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255).
• Text HOME to 741741 to access the Crisis Text Line.

Consider saving these numbers in your phone.

Go to 988lifeline.org for more information or to chat online.

Other things you can do

• Check in with your family member often. Staying in touch shows that you care.
• Encourage the person to reach out to other trusted friends and family members. You might be able to help them make a schedule of people who can check on them.
• Encourage the person to go to counseling. You could offer to help them find a therapist or get to and from the sessions. You can even offer to go to the sessions if they want you to.
• Urge your family member to make a safety plan. This is a set of steps they can take when they feel suicidal. It includes their warning signs, coping strategies, and people they can ask for support. It's best if they work with a therapist to make a plan.
• Offer to remove and store any means of suicide, such as guns or pills.
• Encourage your family member to avoid alcohol and drugs. Urge them to talk to their doctor if they need help to quit. Counseling, support groups, and sometimes medicines can help them stay sober.
• Ask your family member not to take any medicines unless their doctor says to take it.